Sexcetera

One of my wife's insurance company co-workers and her husband just installed a new, eight-person hot-tub in their backyard. We have been invited to a small potluck party with some co-workers and spouses a month from now. The invite reads, "a dish to pass, towel, no swimsuits!"  

Steve and Mia share their thoughts on "A Little Bit Kinky: a Couples' Guide to Rediscovering the Thrill of Sex" (Crown, $11.99), by Dr. Natasha Janina Valdez.

 

Q: My boyfriend wants me to make a porn with him. I'm thinking of doing it for him as a Valentine's Day treat as long as he gives me the tape. Am I crazy?

 

Q: I need your advice on my former relationship. After eight years, my ex-fiance suddenly decided that our relationship wasn't worth keeping anymore. Then I was informed by my gal pals that he was with another woman.  

Q: How can you tell if someone drinks too much? I've been dating this guy for six months and we get along fine, except that he has four or five drinks every night.  

Q: I'm crazy about my boyfriend of six months, and we get along great. But there's a problem that just keep getting worse and worse, and I'm not sure what to do.  

My wife told me that at a family party last weekend, my sister's husband made a pass at her. I was never wild about this guy - he's an egomaniac - but my sister loves him like crazy, so we've gotten along. My dilemma is this: Do I tell my sister? Do I confront this cad? Or should I do nothing?

 

Q: I'm writing in response to the man who fantasizes about his fiancee's sister in her school uniform while they have sex. My husband and I are both in our 40s, and about a year ago we decided to spice things up. Dressing certain ways can be fun and exciting. I'm a typical PTA mom who dresses conservatively, but in the bedroom I can be whoever I want. I've been a slutty schoolgirl, cheap hooker, etc.  

Q: I got dumped last week. This was a kiss-and-tell situation. I kissed. I told someone. At first, my girlfriend was cool with it and thanked me for my honesty. But after being close for months, she got very distant after we spent a weekend together.  

A nice-sounding professional man contacted me through an online dating site. After a phone chat, we agreed to meet for coffee. Forty-five minutes before the meeting, he called to say he might be "just a few minutes late." I showed up on time, but he still hadn't arrived after 30 minutes